We all have those days where we feel completely incompetent, right? We can't seem to do anything right, everything takes 10 times longer to do than it should, and we just lose all confidence in ourselves. We begin to believe we can't do even the smallest tasks, such as brush our teeth or make a simple sandwich, in a sufficient manner.
This is how I've been feeling at work lately. And will likely continue to feel this way for the next two and a half weeks. I've ben given a tough challenge and instead of rising to the occassion I feel like I am failing miserably in every way. I am a perfectionist and don't really deal well with failure (less than perfection). I understand no one can possibly be perfect and so I am sometimes able to talk myself down from the ledge by trying to talk some reason into myself. But sometimes I am not able, and big, ugly meltdown ensues.
Right now, and for the next two weeks, I need to keep repeating the following:
You can only try your hardest and do your best.
You may not be awesome at this, but you are good at other aspects of your job.
It's for only two more weeks and throb it will be over and then you are on vacation for something like 18 days and that is going to rock.
Luckily, the flip side of this feeling of incompetence also exists, where everything is awesome and you feel like the smartest person in the world and could accomplish anything. That's what keeps us going. We remember those times and have hope they come again.
Tell me about a recent time you felt totally inctgifompotent, you know, just to make me feel a little bit better. :)
I am on day number four of my new job . . . in a new city, new house and surrounded by nothing I am familiar with. I am in constant incompetence. I gave myself high kudos yesterday for driving to and finding the Petsmart and Walmart. (so sad) In training for three weeks, I felt like a complete doofus. I knew nothing, even the most basic things my brain couldn't comprehend. I am my own worst enemy, so I am way harder on myself than anyone ever could be. I beat myself up all the time. I have decided it doesn't work too well, so I am celebrating the very, very small stuff and that seems to be working. My morale has gone way up and the things that I can't do/figure out aren't so bad anymore. Hang in there and enjoy your vaca!!
Hi Heidi. First, congratulations on your new job! Second, you sound a lot like me in terms of all the stuff you said about beating yourself up and being way harder on yourself than anyone else. I am very glad you are starting to feel more comfortable and that things are looking up! You just had a really big life change (moving and starting a new job) but it sounds like overall you are handling it as well as anyone could be. Keep celebrating all those small victories and I will try and do the same!
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